Welcome to 2014! It’s
hard to believe that we are already at the end of the first month. So, how many of you have already given up on
your New Year’s resolutions? LOL. No
worries. Nobody’s judging you. Most people are done with them within the
first 30 days. That’s why I choose not
to make New Year’s resolutions. Instead,
I decide on things I want to try or things I want to do and set small goals for
myself. I also do a vision board; so I
can see my vision for the year clearly. So, what’s in store for 2014?
Overall, what I want for 2014 is true, genuine happiness. In order to get that, though, I must create
balance in my life. I need to balance my
mind, body, and spirit to make happiness become real for me.
To work on my mind, I stay in therapy and I read books. I like going to therapy because it helps me
clear my head, bounce things off another person, and learn things about
myself. If I didn’t have my therapist,
Carla, I think I might just implode because I would have nowhere to put my “stuff.” Just like my clients, I have “stuff” to deal
with too. For example, I get anxiety every
time my editor talks about my speaking tour for my book. I’ve luckily been able to process that in
therapy to figure out what is really going there and how to deal with it.
To work on my body, I have added healthy living to my vision
for 2014. Now let me explain my
definition of healthy living. My definition of healthy living includes healthy
eating and exercise. In my definition of
healthy eating, you don’t have to give up anything unless you want to; but you
must learn to eat the bad stuff in moderation.
So, I will still have my M&M’s; I just won’t eat the whole
pack. I still allow myself a beer; but
it’s light beer and it’s only one. Pizza
is on thin crust, etc, etc. You know,
things like that. In my definition of
exercise, something is better than nothing.
That’s my only goal: to do something
each day. Whether I play a game on the
Wii, do Zumba, or walk the stairs instead of using the elevator, I must do
something physical every day to get my heart going. Now, is that going to make me skinny
overnight? No way! It will, however,
make me healthier; and I will build
up to be able to do more as I get stronger and stronger. The bottom line is: there is no beating up on
myself allowed. I can eat what I want in
moderation. I can move my fat butt or
not – my choice – but I have to suffer the consequences if I don’t. I am tired of suffering the consequences of
being unhealthy and physically unfit: feeling tired all the time, short of
breath coming up the stairs, not fitting in my clothes, but most of all, not
feeling good about myself and how I look and feel.
To work on my spirit, I am trying, for the third year, to read the entire Bible in
one year. So far, I have kept up with
the daily readings. More importantly, I
am enjoying my daily readings and getting to know the Word of God again. This is an important goal for me because my
spirit really needs to be fed this year.
I took some hard hits in 2013 and was skating on thin ice. So, I need to reinforce my foundation of
faith as I face this New Year.
Getting my life balanced will balance me and with balance
comes happiness. What is happiness, you
ask? What does it look like? What does it feel like? Well, it’s subjective. Your happiness is how you define it for
yourself. My happiness is a hot pink
heart shape. It smells like fresh baked
chocolate chip cookies. It tastes like good
champagne with dark chocolate. It sounds
like a romantic whisper in my ear. I can
feel it, warm, in my chest. It feels
like a soft fuzzy blanket on my skin. I
see happiness every day in roses, puppies, babies, ocean waves, sunsets, at the
beach, and in nature in general. That’s
what my happiness is to me. It’s a tangible
and reachable goal. What’s your
happiness? Where can you find it? How do you get it? Then, once you get it, how do you keep it?
What is your vision for 2014?
